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Loving Anal Pleasure Doesn’t Define a Man’s Sexuality
Anyone can love it; straight or queer. Don’t avoid it, try it out
My boyfriend finally opened up to me about his sexual fantasies — he said he wanted a finger in him. He’s not queer. And I say there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that. There’s no need to categorize sex and pleasure — because it’s hypocritical. The idea of grouping pleasure is nowhere found in sex ed; where people say “Anal sex is for gay men” or “bondage is for women”.
I have a female genital organ, still, I want something in my butt. Women want it and It’s not weird. Queer men do it, it’s not disgusting. A straight man wanting to have some fun in there is also not weird. It doesn’t make a man weaker, neither does it justify his sexuality.
First, I want to appreciate queer men for being so courageous and being sexually confident in themselves. I love gay men for that, and if I could, I’d join the MFM community. Being sexually open-minded and admitting, other than avoiding — strengthens gay relationships.
I spent months fantasizing, not knowing how much my boyfriend wanted a finger up in his ass. He never told me this, he probably thought I was going to judge him like the way society does. He probably felt ashamed for craving it and most of all, he probably doubted…
